Thinking and acting outside “THE BOX” is a big part of who I am and how I work.
My vision of things, my tools, my working approach.
And it’s a mindset I love sharing generously because of the positive outcomes I’ve seen in my clients’ work and life.
Thinking outside the box, doesn’t have anything to do with rebelling. It’s only an adult way of taping into locked power.
It’s both simple and action oriented.
It’s about feeling good, here and now, when taking a decision or making a choice.
When I saw and picked this Advent Calendar last weekend, here’s the conversation I held with myself:
“Awe, a treat filled Calendar! How nice”.
“I’ve wanted to get one for such a long time and never did”.
“Yeah well, that’s because it’s for kids and I’m not a kid anymore”.
“Who says so”?
“I’m going to get it”.
“But it’s only October… So, am I going to wait until December”?
“No way! I’m going to eat all the treats up to today’s date (which of course I didn’t manage, because my liver said “no”!)”
“I might get another one in November if I feel like it”.
“And probably not have one in December”.
“Who knows, it’s irrelevant. Now is the moment to get it. It makes me happy”.
This is a mundane example of self-empowerment.
An inner battle between a “YES” and a “NO”.
A “SHOULD” and “SHOULDN’T”.
A sense of freedom and joy opposed to rules and restrictions.
Deep conditioning that ends up finding a way out, to transform into joyful action.
Are you aware of how much conditioning is going on around the things we tell ourselves we can’t or shouldn’t do?
And why it’s not good for you, your physical and emotional wellbeing?
It kills your basic INSTINCTS!
Instinct is a powerful immediate response, a pure organic mechanism. No need to think about it.
It kicks in naturally and that’s the beauty of it.
Your instinct knows exactly what’s good for you and what’s not.
If you don’t overpower it with too much thinking and procrastination, largely influenced by the conditioning of others’ opinions and expectations; following your instinct should bring you inner peace.
Learning to trust and follow it consistently, will guide you through many complex situations.
It’s also what’s going to help you take self-empowering decisions.
Buying this Advent Calendar despite all the reasoning going on in my head, was the right decision, because each reason against it, wasn’t mine. It came from conditioning and beliefs of what’s right and wrong. What one should do, when and how.
We loose our power of inner guidance when we give it away to someone else, or an entity that supposedly knows better than us. Is that really the case? Can’t we trust our own instinct in the process of making wise and fruitful decisions for our own good?
By repressing our calling to do certain things, we open the door to unhappiness, frustrations, illness and lower productivity. By honouring them, despite both the general opinion and our own judgment, we embody self-empowerment. We build self-confidence and strength. We remove stress, related to fear of doing something wrong or possible judgment. We allow ourselves to thrive.
I see too many clients fearing to own their power, speak their truth, honour their feelings. People don’t thrive because they’re afraid. Afraid of many things. Failing being the main one. I’m not looking to encourage people to begin a revolution or get into conflict with others, because of daring to do things the way they feel. On the contrary. It’s something that has to do with oneself. Just like me and myself debating over my Advent Calendar. By Aligning yourself first, inside, and out, negotiating or compromising will feel easier, whilst also being more respectful of where you’re at.
When choosing to do things in a way that feels good for you, it brings out the best in you. And by doing so, imagine the ripple effect around you, which can only be positive.
If I had refused myself to buy this calendar, I would have:
Thought about it, Possibly regretted it, Experienced some frustration.
More complex situations, involving other people, in which you deny yourself, end up bringing anger and resentment. You don’t want to go there. Especially if you can avoid it.
Remember to “be the changes you want to see in the world“. Best advice ever from Mahatma Gandhi.
Dare to be you and real.
Honour you and your life, thus allowing your actions to inspire others to do the same.